Can Negativity Be a Good Thing?

August 1st, 2016

You and your partner may be trying to remove all the negativity that occurs between you.

If so, don’t waste your time.

Now, that would seem like advice that runs contrary to anything that you’ve ever heard or read before.

In this blog, I’ll explain what may at first seem to be beyond explanation. Then, I’ll give you 2 tips for where you and your partner should place your focus. Please keep reading…

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Divorce: When is it the Answer?

May 4th, 2015

Are you and your spouse considering a divorce?

Maybe your spouse cheated, and you don’t believe your relationship can survive the affair. Or, you’ve simply lost that loving feeling for one another.

How do you know divorce is the right thing to do?

In this blog, we’ll explore how to answer that question for yourself and your marriage. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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Forgiveness, with a Side of Grudge

February 16th, 2015

Have you told your cheating spouse you forgive him/her, only… you still harbor a colossal-sized grudge?

It’s not unusual for an affair victim to try to rush the healing process, only to move even further apart from their spouse rather than toward reconciliation.

In this blog, we’ll look at forgiveness and grudges—and whether you may have jumped to forgive too soon. Also, I’ll give you 3 tips to gauge whether or not you’re ready to forgive. Read on…

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Why Resentment Makes You See Spouse as the Enemy

November 18th, 2011

Are you in love, or in anger, with your spouse, and it’s causing marriage problems?

When feelings of love die in a marriage, the person who is no longer “in love” is often “in anger” instead, characterized by underlying resentful feelings—which causes marriage problems. Resentment you feel toward your spouse can shred any feelings of being “in love” that you ever had.

In this blog, we will look at resentment and how it creeps in and steals the love right out of your marriage, and 2 steps for getting it out of your marriage so you can rebuild the love. Keep reading…

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3 Keys to Regaining Your Self-Respect Post-Affair

January 18th, 2011

Dealing with the aftermath of your spouse’s affair can be a harrowing time. Your spouse’s cheating may have been an assault on your self-respect, making you lose your sense of self-worth.

If your self-respect has been shredded and is in need of repair, read on. In this post, I’ll give you 3 keys to get you started on your return to a healthy sense of self-worth and respect for the great person you are.

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Saving Your Marriage—Even If You’re Doing It Alone

January 10th, 2011

For a husband or wife who deeply cares about their marriage finds that the relationship with their spouse is slipping away, nothing can be more heart-wrenching than feeling as if your spouse doesn’t share your commitment in making the necessary changes to save your marriage.

Whether it’s depression, confusion, disinterest—or some combination of the three—your spouse may not have reached the point where they’re capable of putting in the effort to salvage your relationship.

In this post, I’ll offer you steps for changing your marriage—on your own.

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In Anger, Not In Love

September 1st, 2009

Are you “in anger” with your spouse?

Some of you are nodding your heads as you read this,
because you know exactly what I’m talking
about. You’re suffering with this problem, and it’s tearing
your marriage apart.

But for those of you who aren’t completely clear what I mean
by being “in anger,” let me explain.

I have found that when feelings of love die in a marriage,
the person who is no longer “in love” is often “in anger”
instead.

Underlying angry or resentful feelings are present,
and these feelings are tearing the “in love” feelings apart.

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