Cheating Men: End the Lies

September 23rd, 2011

Cheating men (and women) have one thing in common: they’ve lied to their spouse, if not in word, then most definitely in deed – and their spouse wants to know how to end the lies.

If you have been lied to by your partner, you probably feel devastated. You may be struggling with emotions such as overwhelming anger, sadness, grief and depression, your head whirling with negative thoughts and images.

It’s not uncommon for affair victims to ask how to end the lies that have overtaken their marriage. In this blog, we’ll look at three tips. Read on…

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The ‘How to Save My Marriage’ Question: A Brain Tease

September 22nd, 2011

Your 3 pounds of brain matter has a huge hold on how you’re conducting your relationship today. If you’ve asked yourself the classic marriage-crisis question, “how to save my marriage,” without fully understanding why you react to your spouse the way you do – you’re spinning in circles.

In this blog, my plan is to help you stop spinning, start making strides forward, and enable you to answer for yourself that ‘how to save my marriage’ question. Keep reading…

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How to Survive Infidelity: Rebuild Honesty

September 21st, 2011

Marriage Sherpa did a survey recently which uncovered a top expectation women have of their husbands: honesty. The majority of respondents are trying to learn how to survive infidelity, with 94% of those who responded being affair victims.

If you want to know how to survive infidelity, understand that it is a multi-layered process. But one of the most crucial elements for surviving an affair is having honesty in your relationship.

In this blog, I’ll share with you three of the 5 Building Blocks for developing an honest, open, trust-worthy marriage. Keep reading…

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Conflict: The Key to Saving Your Marriage

September 19th, 2011

If you’re avoiding conflict with your spouse in an attempt to save your marriage – STOP.

The arguing isn’t the issue, and avoiding going head to head may be doing more harm than good.

In today’s blog, I’ll share with you how conflict holds the secret to saving your marriage. Read on…

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Saving Your Marriage Brings “Marriage Advantage”

September 14th, 2011

You want some extra incentive for saving your marriage? You’ll live longer.

Marriage has many benefits – which may be hard to see when you’re in the midst of a marriage crisis or trying to survive your spouse’s affair and the ensuing damage.

Researchers call it the marriage advantage. In this blog, I’ll explain to you what it is, and how to maximize it by looking at three areas that could be putting you at a marriage disadvantage.

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Is Your Spouse Lying, or Telling the Truth?

February 21st, 2011

Your spouse lied in order to carry on an affair, whether it was one time or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission, or some combination of the two.

Now you’re trying to reconcile with your spouse and save your marriage. But the question lingers: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she telling the truth—this time?

In this blog, we’re going to explore the after-effects of lying as related to an affair, and the 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty in an effort to save your marriage and survive the affair.

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The 3 Necessary Ingredients for Falling in Love Again

February 14th, 2011

After an affair, when your marriage has been through a meltdown, you may wonder how to pick up, move forward—and feel love for your spouse once again.

Maybe you’ve done the work necessary to save and rebuild your marriage: worked through negative thoughts and images, and gotten off the emotional rollercoaster to something resembling solid ground. Many couples want to know: how do I fall in love with my spouse again?

In this blog, I’ll give you three key ingredients that need to be in place in order to be successful at finding love once more with your spouse.

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How to Survive an Affair and Conquer Roadblocks to Healing

February 7th, 2011

The inner struggle a victim of an affair goes through is indescribable—unless you’ve been there yourself. Eventually, time is the true healer.

But many victims of their spouse’s affairs wonder if there is a way to make the process go faster, or exactly how they can move on from this point of pain—or even if what they’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, I’ll share with you two of the monstrous emotions that need to be faced and handled as soon as you recognize them. And, I’ll give you some strategies to cope with them so they don’t block your ability to heal.

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Stop the Emotional Drain of Haunting Affair Images

January 31st, 2011

One of the biggest heartaches for an injured spouse is the haunting images of their spouse’s lover, playing like a horror-movie in their head.

For victims of cheating, there are many reactions to this onslaught of images:

• Loss of sleep
• Lack of appetite
• Inability to focus on tasks
• Struggle to save the marriage

It’s not unusual to carry around these images in your mind. I’ll give you 3 steps for ridding your mind of them so you can get your life back and your emotions on the healing path.

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Guidelines for Creating a Code of Transparency in your Marriage

January 24th, 2011

The trust you had in your spouse has been ruptured. You want to save your marriage, yet, you don’t know how to find a way to trust your partner again.
But if you don’t—you realize that will mean the end of your marriage. You’re in a stalemate: you don’t trust your spouse, and your spouse doesn’t know how to make you believe what they’re saying, and you keep waiting to know that your spouse is being honest with you.
That’s where your attempts to save your marriage may be faltering: what you’re focusing on. Read on to learn the basic guidelines for rebuilding trust—by establishing a Code of Transparency.

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