The 3 Steps for Ending Post-Affair Negative Thinking

April 15th, 2015

Would you like to heal from your spouse’s infidelity and the horrible negative thoughts that come with it?

When you learn that your spouse cheated on you, you are hit with a barrage of negative thoughts. At first, you’re in shock, unable to think anything. Next, dozens of questions, like a swarm of stinging hornets, invade your brain. Negative thoughts invade your mind, threatening to sweep away your sense of stability, faith in humankind, and hope for the future.

In this post, I’ll give you 3 steps you’ll need to survive the negative thoughts threatening to take over your life and give you back a sense of peace. Read on…

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Survive the Affair: Sidestep the Paramour-Comparison Temptation

March 11th, 2015

Your spouse’s affair has probably devastated your self-esteem. Like many affair victims, you may be plagued with thoughts of the other woman.

It’s additional pain to beat yourself up by comparing yourself to the paramour.

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that are coming from inside you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some tips for avoiding the paramour-comparison temptation and rebuilding your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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When Infidelity Kills Your Self-Esteem

March 28th, 2012

You felt great about yourself—until your spouse cheated on you.

Now, your self-esteem has taken a plunge, and you wonder if you’ll ever feel good about yourself again. Before your spouse’s affair, you might have been moving through your life, accomplishing your goals, comfortable in your marriage.

Then came the self-esteem blow: your spouse cheated.

In this blog, I want to share steps to help you reclaim a healthy sense of self-esteem. Read on…

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Post-Affair Emergency Intervention

October 14th, 2011

Here’s a spot-on description of an affair: “a sickening cocktail of anger, grief, frustration, and a total loss of self-esteem.” You could probably give this description your own personalized twist.

What you need in a post-affair situation like this is some emergency intervention.

Read on to learn 3 tips to jump-start your post-affair healing process.

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3 Red Flags Your Marriage-Saving Effort is Failing

July 27th, 2011

Either you or your spouse has had an affair, and it has devastated your marriage. Now, the mistake of the affair has been acknowledged, and you both wish to salvage what’s left of your relationship.

It’s not an easy fix. Many days you’ll feel as if it’s two steps back for every one step forward.

How do you gauge whether your rebuilding efforts are on track, or whether your efforts are doomed to failure? I’ll give you three red flags to be on the alert for which could signal the derailment of you and your spouse’s best efforts to save your marriage. To learn what those red flags are – and how to sidestep them – read more…

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Why Men Cheat: Are Wives Too Needy?

July 20th, 2011

After your spouse’s affair was revealed, you may have found yourself full of self-doubts. In fact, your spouse may have expressed that he or she thinks you’re being “too needy.”

If so, it probably made you feel even sicker inside than you already do, and planted a seed of self-doubt: Am I too needy? And if so, where has my power gone?

In this blog, we’ll explore what being ‘needy’ is and what it stems from. Read on to see if you’re currently suffering from neediness syndrome…

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Cheating Husbands… are Wives Responsible?

March 31st, 2011

You found out your spouse had an affair, and the indescribable devastation you feel has shredded your emotions and taken over your every thought.

You realize that marriage is a partnership, and as such, there’s a part of you that wants to shoulder some of the blame for your spouse’s cheating.

Don’t you dare.

Your responsibility comes now, post-affair. In this blog, we’ll look at 3 key responsibilities you have now that the affair is out in the open and as you try to pick up the pieces of your life and your marriage.

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The #1 Way to Overcome Obsessive, Post-Affair Images

March 7th, 2011

What’s playing in your mind today? Is it the same thing that played there yesterday? And do you really look forward to seeing it again tomorrow?

I’m talking about obsessive, post-affair images. If you are the victim of an affair, it’s highly likely that you’re experiencing a non-stop show of images that include your spouse and your spouse’s paramour. These images play themselves repeatedly, until you feel like you’re going to lose your mind.

These images become obsessive in nature, because they’ve gripped you and you can’t seem to release their hold over you. In this blog, we’ll look at the #1 way to overcome these obsessive images—and the three steps to help you accomplish it.

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How to Get Over an Affair by Controlling Your Mind

February 28th, 2011

Many people injured by their spouse’s affair say they feel like they’re losing their mind.

In a sense, you are—but it’s not permanent. What you’ve really lost is temporary control of your own thoughts. You’ve been dealt an emotional and psychological blow: you found out that the person you love and trust has committed adultery—and it has hit you like a punch to the gut. Your mind is overrun with negative thoughts, leaving you feeling exhausted, miserable and unhappy.

You’ve been broadsided by the revelation of the affair, and you need time to process this completely unexpected turn in your relationship. In this blog, I’ll share with you some ways to get your thoughts back under your control, and put an end to those negative thoughts.

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Is Your Spouse Lying, or Telling the Truth?

February 21st, 2011

Your spouse lied in order to carry on an affair, whether it was one time or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission, or some combination of the two.

Now you’re trying to reconcile with your spouse and save your marriage. But the question lingers: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she telling the truth—this time?

In this blog, we’re going to explore the after-effects of lying as related to an affair, and the 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty in an effort to save your marriage and survive the affair.

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