Post-Affair Marriage Success

May 6th, 2015

What makes a marriage successful, especially post-affair?

How about taking a break from all the bad things that have been going on in your relationship and focusing your attention on something else, at least after the initial pain of the affair has been managed?

In this blog, I’ll tell you about a finding from relationship research that can help you in rebuilding your marriage, post-affair. In addition, I’ll help you build up the positives once again in your life as you work to heal from the affair. Please read on…

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Survive the Affair: Sidestep the Paramour-Comparison Temptation

March 11th, 2015

Your spouse’s affair has probably devastated your self-esteem. Like many affair victims, you may be plagued with thoughts of the other woman.

It’s additional pain to beat yourself up by comparing yourself to the paramour.

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings that are coming from inside you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some tips for avoiding the paramour-comparison temptation and rebuilding your self-esteem. Please keep reading…

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Surviving Infidelity: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Her

August 10th, 2010

Haunted by your spouse’s affair, you, like many victims of cheating, may find you’re constantly comparing yourself to the other woman. Your internal dialogue may sound similar to this:

“She’s probably prettier than me.”

“I’ll bet her body’s firmer, more fit—I’ve really let myself slide.”

“She’s no doubt smart, accomplished, funny—no wonder he couldn’t resist her.”

“I’m not interesting enough to keep anyone’s attention.”

As if learning of the affair and the sordid details weren’t enough, you’re now tormented with an onslaught of negative thoughts and feelings—directed at you, from you.

In this article, I’m going to give you some methods for putting a stop to this nonsense and rally yourself to be your own best friend again.

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