Seething with Post-Affair Anger

March 22nd, 2012

Your spouse cheated, and you are so angry, you don’t know how you’ll ever feel calm, collected and like your old self again. You would settle for just feeling good, rather than having these burning emotions in your heart and gut.

You have every right to be angry. But how do you know when it has crossed the line and become too comfortable?

In this blog, I’ll offer 3 tips for gauging whether or not you’re seething with anger beyond what is healthy for you, and could potentially derail your marriage-saving potential. Keep reading…

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Why Do Men Cheat? Top Reason Given.

February 27th, 2012

Affair victims are plagued by the question, “Why do men cheat?”

It’s a hand-wringing type of question, and if you are an affair victim, you know this question well. It may plague you as you search for the answer that explains the unexplainable to you.

In this blog, we’ll look at what the top reason is for why men cheat—and women, too. I’ll also give you 3 tips on how to recover from your spouse’s affair. Read on…

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Cheated On: 3 Ways to Erase Post-Affair Anger

December 26th, 2011

Have you been cheated on and since turned into an “angry” person?

The majority of people who have been cheated on will experience anger as of the many emotions they feel after finding out about their spouse’s affair. And for some, they find that, where they were once a happy person, they now feel angry all the time—and people are noticing.

Today’s blog will help you, if you’ve been cheated on, to defuse post-affair anger 3 different ways, as well as offer an explanation for why anger is lingering. And if you haven’t been cheated on but still experience bouts of anger in your relationship with your spouse, the same tips can help you, as well. Read on…

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Can a Marriage Survive an Affair?

December 12th, 2011

It’s the age-old infidelity question: can a marriage survive an affair?

The short answer is, yes. A marriage can survive as long as both partners are involved in the process of deep soul-searching and recommitment to the relationship. To rebuild a marriage requires an assessment of needs.

In this blog, I’ll reveal three of the 10 critical dimensions of a relationship to help you in your assessment, and why neglecting needs is poisonous. Read on…

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After the Affair, Picking Up the Pieces

November 4th, 2011

After the affair, you may find yourself still trying to pick up the pieces of your marriage many months later—and not getting anywhere with your spouse.

Your spouse may be resistant to making changes, for whatever reason. And it seems the more you try to make him or her change, the more resistant they become. You are left feeling frustrated, tired and alone—and like no progress has been made at all in saving your marriage.

In this blog, we’ll look at how to go about picking up the pieces after the affair has devastated your life—and move forward to a point where you feel progress really has been made. Keep reading…

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Feeling or Acting Angry: Which Damages Marriage?

October 26th, 2011

It’s almost needless to say that being faced with something as extreme as an affair makes you feel angry. When you are faced with the reality that the person you love and trust most in the world has betrayed you, angry feelings are one of the natural reactions.

But no matter what the reason, no matter how justified you think your anger is, behaving angrily almost always makes your problems worse. There is a big difference between having feelings of anger and acting angry.

In this blog, you’ll learn why acting angry is not productive in a marriage and 3 tips for how to manage angry feelings. Please read more…

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Chronic Post-Affair Stress: 3-Step Health Plan

October 24th, 2011

The anguish of discovering your spouse cheated: what is the effect on your health?

Nothing that feels this painful can be good. You are no doubt experiencing this firsthand if you’re dealing with the knowledge that you’re married to a cheater.

In today’s blog, we’ll look at how your health can be affected and a 3-step plan to protect it from further harm.

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Is Your Spouse Still Unfaithful?

October 21st, 2011

Are you haunted by thoughts that your spouse is still unfaithful? Post-affair, questions of “is my spouse still unfaithful” can keep you awake at night, worried that your spouse will cheat again.
Suspicion is natural after an affair. But some suspicions are reasonable and others aren’t. Try to distinguish between the two as you work through your post-affair emotions.
In today’s blog, I want to share with you 3 signs that your marriage may be safe from further infidelity. Please keep reading…

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Quiet the Affair Aftershocks (3 Recommendations)

October 17th, 2011

Overcoming infidelity means the affair victim must hurdle a cluster of emotional torments: namely, negative thoughts and images.

Anyone who is the victim of an affair knows that’s no small hurdle.

In this blog, you’ll learn a negative thought/image control plan. Keep reading…

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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