A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.
Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.
And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.
Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.
Is honesty really the best policy?
It’s a question that many of us may struggle with from time to time. But in a marriage – especially post-affair – honesty is a must-do. Without it, your marriage likely will not survive.
In this blog, we’ll look at honesty and its place in your marriage. But keep reading to discover two surprising dangers associated with adhering to “honesty is the best policy.”
After you found out your spouse cheated on you, any doubts that have ever been in the background of your mind about your decision to marry your spouse come roaring to the forefront.
If you had doubts before, the affair has cemented them in your mind. You think, “I never did really understand my spouse, and my spouse certainly doesn’t seem to get me. Maybe we shouldn’t have married…”
And yet, you more than likely want to save your marriage. So refrain from regretting the past and look toward building your future. It’s possible to survive an affair and build a strong relationship—using a method I’ll share with you so you can better communicate the emotions you are feeling. Read on…
Imagine being chained to a chair in front of your television, forced to watch a disturbing series of horror-drenched shows that are upsetting and leave you emotionally distraught. You struggle, but you’re unable to break away from viewing them.
Welcome to this scenario’s equivalent: post-affair images.
Learn how to yank the plug on these horrific, affair-induced images—and reclaim your interior, mental television. Keep reading for your negative image elimination plan.
They’re insidious, all-consuming and nasty. What are they? The storm of negative thoughts that has moved into your head and taken control. And if you don’t get a handle on them, you may begin to think you’re going crazy.
Not only do you feel angry and betrayed, but you also feel you’ve lost control of your most private sanctuary: your own mind.
You deserve to have back that inner sanctuary. In today’s blog, we’ll look at the connection between negative emotions and negative thoughts. And, I’ll give you two steps for calming the negative thought storm that is destroying your peace and sense of sanity. Read on.
Did you know that not expressing your pain to your spouse could increase your risk for serious diseases, such as heart disease and cancer?
As a victim of cheating, what has been unleashed on you is a world of hurt. And one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have is finding the words to tell your spouse how terribly hurt you are by their affair. The affair has devastated you—emotionally, psychologically – and even physically. You may feel a tremendous amount of stress and pressure.
You need to communicate these feelings and emotions to your spouse—for the sake of your marriage—and for your personal health. In this blog, I’ll give you 3 steps for making this conversation happen.
In the initial aftermath of an affair, it’s hard for you as the victim to think about how you’ll ever bridge the gap between here, amidst pain and anguish—and there, a strong partnership and intimate connection with your spouse.
The thought of being physical once again with your cheating spouse may be too much for you to consider right now. But to have a deeply fulfilling relationship once again—the kind of marriage you deserve—you will need to take steps to move in this direction at some point.
In this blog, I want to share with you the triangle that makes up total intimacy within a marriage, and two intimacy sectors to rebuild after the affair to help you move forward in saving your marriage.
Infidelity causes a tsunami of painful emotions. Even the cheater isn’t immune to the emotional turmoil.
But the cheater’s turmoil can’t even begin to compare to the pain that you, as the victim of cheating, experiences. A spouse’s infidelity unleashes raw waves of emotion, creating ongoing internal devastation.
It can be tempting to want to sidestep these emotions, tamp them down, ignore them. But it’s not a healthy option.
In this blog, I want to share with you 3 options for processing those emotions in a way that is healthy—and that moves you forward so you can survive infidelity and salvage the pieces of your marriage.