Post-Affair: Choose Your Confidantes Wisely

February 11th, 2015

Your spouse cheated, and you are overwhelmed with negative thoughts and feelings. You may feel that if you don’t confide in someone, you may explode from the internal pressure and strife.

Before you share your spouse’s wrong-doing with other people, think twice.

In this blog, I’ll go over the danger of confiding the details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family, and how it could hurt your chances for saving your marriage. Read more…

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Confiding in Family Can Doom Marriage Reconciliation

July 20th, 2010

If you’ve discovered your spouse has been involved in an affair, you can probably relate to the desire to confess their sins and wrong-doing to the people you feel are in your corner. But think twice before confiding the lurid details of your spouse’s infidelity to friends and family.

Pouring out your hurt, anger and disappointment to family and friends may be your first reaction, but in doing so, you could possibly doom any chance for reconciliation with your spouse. In this blog, we’ll explore whether confiding the affair to family and friends could kill your efforts to repair your relationship with your husband or wife—before you’ve even had a chance to work through the emotions you’re feeling and understand what it is you want.

You’re overwhelmed with emotions and want to lash out. You may find yourself bouncing between two extremes: the desire to hole up somewhere and privately nurse your wounds, yet also needing the embrace of the people you trust to love you and want what’s best for you, who will be there in your time of greatest need.

So what could possibly be wrong with reaching out to the other people in your life?

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