70% of Communication is THIS

April 6th, 2016

Sometimes, it’s what we don’t say that can land us in hot water with our partner.

Have you ever had that experience? You’re standing there, listening to what they have to say, when all of a sudden their face clouds up, their eyes scrunch into slits and they lash out at you…

You’re standing there wondering, “What did I do? I was just standing here listening!”

Most people fail to remember something very important: there is a spectrum involved with communication, and you may inadvertently be steering yourself off-message by forgetting this.

In this blog, we’ll get you back on message with 2 tips and make sure your communication across the spectrum is saying what you mean rather than sending mixed signals. Please keep reading…

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The 2 Critical Dimensions to End the Lies

September 9th, 2015

To participate in an affair, your spouse had to lie, whether it was just once or over an extended period of time. The cheater either told deliberate lies, or lied by omission. Either way, a lie is a lie, and it destroys trust.

Maybe now you are considering forgiving your spouse so you can save your marriage. But you are hung up on one very important question: Is my spouse lying to me, or is he/she really telling me the truth now?

In this blog, we’re going to examine lying’s after-effects, as well as 2 critical dimensions needed to rebuild trust and honesty so you can save your marriage and survive the affair. Read on…

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Emotionally Draining, Nightmare Landscape: Affair Images

August 19th, 2015

Affair victims suffer from post-affair, haunting images of their spouse’s lover, frolicking about, all smiles for the interior camera of the victim’s mind.

It’s torturous to have these images, and yet, many affair victims struggle to make them stop.

It’s not unusual to carry around these images in your mind, but it doesn’t mean these images should not move along, making way for positive thoughts and feelings so you can heal from the pain. I’ll give you 3 steps for ridding your mind of those painful images so your emotions can get on a healing course. Read on…

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Jealousy: Undermining Marriage-Saving Efforts?

May 20th, 2015

A spouse’s affair can cause you to doubt your worth and flat-line your self-esteem. The betrayal inflicts deep wounds, causing seemingly unceasing psychological turmoil.

As you work to survive the affair, and maybe you’re even trying to save your marriage, you may now watch your cheating spouse’s every move, looking for any sign that he or she is giving attention to someone else.

While some jealousy may be good, those jealous feelings can also backfire and jeopardize your efforts to save your marriage.

In this blog, let’s look at jealousy, and I’ll give you 3 tips on how to wield it wisely. Please read on…

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Stop Derailing Your Marriage-Saving Efforts (4 Guidelines)

May 11th, 2015

You may want to say to your spouse, “Let’s save our marriage and fall in love again.”

But your communication skills may be falling short. There are the things you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track using 4 guidelines.

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Divorce: When is it the Answer?

May 4th, 2015

Are you and your spouse considering a divorce?

Maybe your spouse cheated, and you don’t believe your relationship can survive the affair. Or, you’ve simply lost that loving feeling for one another.

How do you know divorce is the right thing to do?

In this blog, we’ll explore how to answer that question for yourself and your marriage. Read on…

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Forgiveness: Too Much to Ask For?

April 27th, 2015

If your cheating spouse asks for forgiveness, is it too much to ask for?

Many affair victims have mixed feelings about their spouses asking them to forgive their cheating—especially when it is the cause of unfathomable emotional pain.

In this blog, we’ll look at the role of forgiveness and 3 tips for deciding if your spouse is asking you for too much. Read on…

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He Cheated. Now What?

October 10th, 2011

When you are faced with the evidence that he cheated (and this is applicable to wives who cheat, too), you feel broadsided by the news.

Immediately upon learning of a spouse’s affair, your very next thought may be, “Now what?”

You know it’s going to be a bumpy ride. Let’s look at a few steps to take when you’re first slammed with the revelation that he cheated. Read on…

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Is Jealousy Jeopardizing Your Efforts to Save Your Marriage?

October 26th, 2010

After you’ve discovered your spouse’s affair, do you feel hyper-vigilant for the slightest hint of betrayal?
If your spouse smiles at the wait staff in a restaurant, flirtatiously banters with your accountant, or takes a phone call from a co-worker of the opposite sex, do you feel your pulse quicken and a sense of anger—even rage—taking over?
Going through the emotional devastation of an affair, you are probably still dealing with images that continue to run through your mind of your spouse with another person. And feeling that sense of hyper-vigilance means you have another strong emotion to work through: jealousy.
In this blog, you’ll learn tips to manage those jealous feelings so they don’t overwhelm you and jeopardize your and your spouse’s efforts to save your marriage.

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Follow These 4 Guidelines to Help Strengthen Marriage Communication

October 19th, 2010

You say to your spouse, “I want to fix things between us, save our marriage and make it work.”

But your communication skills may be falling short in an unexpected area: what you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track by following 4 guidelines.

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