Communicating with your spouse may have been an issue prior to your spouse’s affair. Maybe you had arguments that became heated, best described as the “knock down, drag out” variety with no holds barred.
After the shock of finding out your spouse cheated, and the emotional upheaval that has left you reeling – communication may be at a standstill. Either you aren’t communicating at all, or worse: your communication is nothing but arguments and confrontation, where both sides are digging in, entrenched in their need to be “right.” When you argue with your spouse, it may feel as if you’re defending your very life.
Find out what may be causing your communication to stall – now when, more than ever, you need to communicate well in order to rebuild your marriage, and what a leading researcher has found that can turn around the dismal communication between you and your spouse…
Does your dog listen better than your spouse?
According to an Associated Press poll, a third of married women, and 18 percent of married men, find their pets to be better listeners than their spouse. If you feel disconnected from your spouse or are struggling in your marriage, it’s pretty likely the underlying culprit is a failure to communicate.
During this article we’re going to discuss 3 communication principles you can use right now to improve how you and your spouse talk.
When the communication in your marriage has been reduced to “yes,” “no,” and grunted-out lists of items you need from the grocery store, your marriage is in danger of hitting the proverbial wall—and worse. In this blog, I’ll give you a few tips that Dr. Gunzburg gave in a recent interview on the topic of how to enhance communication and reconnect with your partner.
How to Understand What Your Spouse is Thinking
“I don’t know why Ed doesn’t get it,” Nancy complained to Karen. “I simply don’t know where he is coming from! I try to explain my thoughts and feelings to him and it is like he is living in a different world!!”
As Karen intently listened, Nancy continued. “I am worried about him not caring about us anymore. Maybe there’s another woman. Maybe I just don’t get it. I don’t understand, I am totally confused, Karen!!”
Karen thought for a moment and replied, “Everything may be different for Ed than it is for you. His world is different, everybody’s is. Jerry and I had a similar problem until we took the time to listen to one another. Then I was able to see how he felt from his point of view. I am wondering if you are aware of how Ed sees things.”