3 Barriers to Post-Affair Talk

August 17th, 2016

When a partner has cheated, not only is the disclosure excruciatingly painful for the victim on an emotional level… their search for answers can be frustrating.

And the cause of this frustration is none other than the cheater himself or herself… because their own actions are so repugnant, they’re uncomfortable discussing them!

It’s not necessarily that the cheater feels the victim doesn’t have the right to know. Rather, they wish they could erase their actions and pretend as if their cheating never happened.

In today’s blog, I’ll tell you the 3 barriers to having a post-affair talk, and then give you 2 tips for how to get the cheater to tell you what you need to know. Please keep reading…

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2 Ways to SINK Your Love Boat

October 28th, 2015

I’m sure you don’t want to deliberately sink your love boat.

No one goes into a relationship thinking, “I know what I’ll do: I’ll do everything in my power to destroy the intimacy between us and make us both miserable.”

That would be sadistic. And you’re not sadistic. But you do need to know how your love boat could be developing holes in it and ready to sink to the relationship graveyard. Keep reading…

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Emotional Infidelity: Why It Hurts so Much

August 17th, 2015

Infidelity of any kind is painful. It shatters your trust in your spouse as well as your heart.

And it’s not just sexual infidelity. Many spouses become victims of emotional infidelity—and feel the pain just as keenly as if their spouse had had sexual relations with the other person.

In this blog, we’ll look at why emotional infidelity hurts so much, and 3 tips for healing if you have been the victim of emotional infidelity. Please keep reading…

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Saving Your Marriage on Your Own

July 29th, 2015

Do you feel your relationship with your spouse is slipping away, and your spouse doesn’t seem interested in saving your marriage?

Many people experience this, whether their spouse has had an affair or hasn’t broken off an affair, or the marriage has simply grown stale.

Your spouse may not have reached the point where they’re capable of putting in the effort to save the marriage, while you may be a lot further along than they are in recognizing what’s worth having.

In this post, I’ll give you the steps for changing and saving your marriage when you’re on your own. Read on…

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Cheated On, Spirit Broken (Some Remedies)

July 20th, 2015

Your spouse cheated on you, and you feel sick… sick down to your soul. How can you move past this point of pain and despair, and feel happy again?

Having your spouse break your trust is one of the cruelest things that could happen to a person. It costs the victim so much.

In this blog, let’s examine the inequality that exists in the post-affair marriage—and how to recover more quickly, if you are the affair victim. Read on…

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It’s Your Choice: Stop Divorce, Survive Infidelity

May 27th, 2015

When you learned that your spouse cheated—or may still be carrying on an affair—did your life stop? Was “divorce” one of the first things that popped into your head?

Affair victims struggle with what their next step should be: try to save the marriage and attempt marriage counseling, or just divorce now because they don’t think they could ever move past the affair.

In this post, I’ll help you make a decision by providing you a starting point: questions to ask yourself when considering whether to seek marriage help, or divorce.

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How to Save My Marriage? – The Answer Inside

August 17th, 2011

Your marriage is either struggling mightily, or it’s experiencing the dark season of an affair. You are distraught, wondering if your marriage can survive the damage.

It’s easy to get caught in a vortex of negativity. After all, you are experiencing what is probably one of the most negative timeframes of your life – it’s normal to see your relationship and your life through a very dark lens at this time.

But doing so may lead you, and your spouse, to ask the wrong question about your marriage – and this could derail your marriage-saving efforts. In this blog, we’ll look at the wrong, and the right, question – and three steps to help get your marriage back on track. Keep reading…

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Reframe Failure, Save Your Marriage

June 22nd, 2011

So your spouse cheated on you, and now your marriage is neck-deep in crisis mode. You may feel like a failure: your marriage may very well be over, and everything you put into it was for nothing.

This experience has left you looking at the world through a very dark lens.

Are you an unworthy, broken person – and this is why you are in this predicament today, a victim of infidelity? Read on for the answer to this question.

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After the Affair: How to Eliminate the Negative Images

May 12th, 2011

Imagine being chained to a chair in front of your television, forced to watch a disturbing series of horror-drenched shows that are upsetting and leave you emotionally distraught. You struggle, but you’re unable to break away from viewing them.

Welcome to this scenario’s equivalent: post-affair images.

Learn how to yank the plug on these horrific, affair-induced images—and reclaim your interior, mental television. Keep reading for your negative image elimination plan.

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Break the Negative Thought/Negative Emotion Connection

May 5th, 2011

They’re insidious, all-consuming and nasty. What are they? The storm of negative thoughts that has moved into your head and taken control. And if you don’t get a handle on them, you may begin to think you’re going crazy.

Not only do you feel angry and betrayed, but you also feel you’ve lost control of your most private sanctuary: your own mind.

You deserve to have back that inner sanctuary. In today’s blog, we’ll look at the connection between negative emotions and negative thoughts. And, I’ll give you two steps for calming the negative thought storm that is destroying your peace and sense of sanity. Read on.

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