How Well Do You Know Your Partner?

August 10th, 2016

I’m willing to go out on a limb and say that you probably think you know your partner really well.

But if put to the test, most people don’t know their partners as well as they think they do.

There are two reasons for this…

In this blog, we’ll discuss why people think they know their partners really well, but in actuality, they may be missing the bigger picture—and there are 2 reasons why. Then, I’ll give you 3 questions to ask your partner so you can really get to know them better. Read on…

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The Painful Blow of an Emotional Affair

June 29th, 2016

Have you sensed that your partner isn’t fully plugged into your relationship, but can’t put your finger on it?

Maybe that led you to feeling tempted to check your partner’s messages, whether it’s texting, phone records, or emails—and you discovered something that floored you and shook your faith in your partner’s fidelity.

With the abundance of available technologies for making connections, there seem to be even more opportunities for someone to be unfaithful.

Often, the connections that are being made don’t even have to be physical. Your partner could be forming a bond with someone of the opposite sex… and one that can be almost as devastating as a full-blown sexual affair.

In this blog, we’ll look at why discovering a partner’s emotional affair can be such a painful blow, and the reason why those involved in emotional affairs don’t initially recognize how damaging they are. Then, I’ll give you 3 questions to ask yourself to determine whether or not it’s an emotional affair. Read on…

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Do You Have Mistrust Triggers?

March 9th, 2012

Do you find yourself unable to believe a word out of your spouse’s mouth? Can’t tell the truth from the lies anymore?

If your spouse has broken your trust, you have good reason to be mistrustful. That’s your instincts trying to rediscover the lay of the land, armed with this new knowledge that your spouse is capable of being deceitful–and your instincts are trying to protect you from further hurt.

Many victims blame themselves for believing their spouse–and then getting duped.

In this blog, we’ll look at your mistrust triggers–and I’ll give you three steps to move forward, away from them. Read on…

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Better Understand Your Spouse

March 2nd, 2012

A couple may share their home, their lives, and their love, and yet experience their worlds in different ways that leads them to simply not understand one another.

It is important to understand these differences to foster a healthy marriage. If you feel you don’t understand how your spouse thinks, it may be a matter of perspective: you see through your lens onto the world, while your spouse sees the world through their own unique lens.

Is your way better? In this blog, we’ll explore how to understand your spouse so you can deepen your emotional connection with him or her, using 3 guidelines to get you started. Please keep reading…

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Confronting a Suspected Cheater

February 20th, 2012

You may have a sixth sense that something isn’t quite right with your spouse, and you may suspect he/she is cheating. Your gut is telling you… something is off.

Maybe your spouse is sprucing up a bit more before going to work. Or, they’ve gone from a depressive state to elated—for no apparent reason.

If you suspect your spouse is cheating, you may feel torn about confronting them with your suspicions. In this blog, I’ll give you three considerations for confronting the issue—and your spouse—head on. Keep reading…

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Having the Affair Talk

October 12th, 2011

One of the most emotionally-loaded conversations you could ever have is about an affair that you or your spouse has had. Many affair victims think that it’s critical to their recovery that they talk about the affair.

That isn’t necessarily so.

In this blog, we’ll look at whether or not it’s necessary to talk about the affair in the first place, and I’ll offer some guidelines if you decide it’s right for you.

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How to Save Your Marriage through Honesty

September 16th, 2011

Most spouses can forgive a lot of shortcomings in a marriage.
But what about lies and deceit?
When we tell anything less than the truth in our relationships, we are asking a lot from our spouse to forgive us, to believe in us, to trust our words and our actions. To save your marriage, you need honesty, truth and openness.
A common question that relationship experts get is, “How can I make my spouse tell the truth?” In this blog, we’ll examine this question, review a child’s fable, and see how to save your marriage by making a change and implementing a method for honesty. Read on…

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Break the Negative Thought/Negative Emotion Connection

May 5th, 2011

They’re insidious, all-consuming and nasty. What are they? The storm of negative thoughts that has moved into your head and taken control. And if you don’t get a handle on them, you may begin to think you’re going crazy.

Not only do you feel angry and betrayed, but you also feel you’ve lost control of your most private sanctuary: your own mind.

You deserve to have back that inner sanctuary. In today’s blog, we’ll look at the connection between negative emotions and negative thoughts. And, I’ll give you two steps for calming the negative thought storm that is destroying your peace and sense of sanity. Read on.

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Are Mistrust Triggers Killing Your Marriage?

April 20th, 2010

How to Know Your Spouse Isn’t Lying

“I’m having a hard time believing a word that comes out of his mouth,” said Ann. “When I think back to the time before I knew the truth of the affair, and how effortlessly those lies came when I’d ask why he was late getting home, well, I don’t know how I can ever trust him again. How do I know he isn’t lying?”

Ann found herself unsure of her ability to know the truth from the lies. She struggled with the blow to her self-esteem in being unable to know she was being deceived. Believing her spouse was late coming home for the reasons he gave had caused her to feel inadequate in protecting herself, unable to spot the lies when they first occurred.

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