Revive Your Spirit Post-Affair

June 22nd, 2016

Has your partner cheated?

If so, the post-affair fallout seems to be all on you… while your partner has seeming escaped relatively unscathed.

For the victim of an affair, their spirit can feel broken. And a broken spirit makes it challenging to get through each day, let alone begin the process of healing.

You may feel like you’re in survival mode and wonder when you’ll get back to your “real” life… the one where you feel good about yourself and about life in general once again.

In this blog, we’ll look at the effects of the post-affair trauma, as well as two spirit-rebuilding tips that can get you on the path to healing from an affair. Please keep reading…

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Why Cheaters Cheat (1 Common, Controversial Reason)

December 21st, 2015

For victims of an affair, one of the top-ranked questions for cheaters is, “Why?”

There are other questions tacked on to that simple question, such as “How could you do this to me?” and “How could you throw away X years of our relationship?”

But the main thing victims want is some sort of explanation that makes sense. Not only that—they want an internal light bulb to go off, one that gives them perfect understanding while releasing the all-but-unbearable pain and disappointment: “Aha, now I understand! I am satisfied with the reason and feel at peace now.”

There is one universal reason, which is somewhat controversial to say, as to why cheaters cheat. It may or may not be a satisfying reason, but it strikes to the core of how a cheater arrived at their ill-fated decision. Read on to find out…

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Cheating Spouses Needs Not Met: Valid Cheating Excuse?

October 7th, 2015

Finding out your spouse cheated, probably one of your first questions was, “Why?”

Cheaters may have a specific reason they give as a justification, but more than likely, they are not in touch with what prompted them to commit such a stupid act. Unfortunately, the victim of the affair can’t rest until the question is answered to some level of satisfaction.

When it comes to cheating, there is no “good” reason that can ever make it okay to cheat. But cheaters tend to always have a justification for why the affair happened, and it usually hinges on needs.

In this blog, we’re going to look at two needs found within a marriage, and I’ll give two conversation starters to begin exploring these particular needs as you work to save your marriage. Keep reading…

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Barriers to Post-Affair Healing

August 26th, 2015

As the victim of an affair, you may not be sure how to survive an affair, let alone overcome the barriers to healing you’ll encounter along the way. It is said that time is the true healer, but you are swimming in a sea of pain until sufficient time passes.

As the victim of your spouse’s affair, you may wonder if there is a way to make the process of healing go faster, or the formula for moving from this point of pain—or even if what you’re experiencing could be considered normal.

In this blog, you’ll learn how to survive an affair by facing down two monstrous emotions and strategies to cope with these post-affair healing barriers. Please read more…

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Emotional Infidelity: Are you at Risk?

June 29th, 2015

Who is vulnerable to emotional infidelity?

The answer may surprise you.

Emotional infidelity is tricky by its very nature: it occurs at a level where you may not even realize it’s happening. In this blog, we’ll explore how easily a casual relationship can slip into emotional infidelity—and how you and your spouse can protect from its pitfalls. Read on…

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Want to Save Your Marriage? Take the Lead.

June 15th, 2015

Your marriage is in crisis, either from an affair, neglect—or a relationship-deadly combination of both.

You may be waiting for your spouse to make a move: let him or her make amends, fix the problems in your marriage, turn things around.

Don’t hold your breath.

In this blog, I’ll tell you why, and give you 3 tips to save your marriage, before you slide into divorce court wondering “what happened?” Please keep reading…

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Spouse Cheated: Now, What’s Best for You?

March 18th, 2015

Your spouse’s infidelity has provided you with something you didn’t expect: a chance to stop, take stock of your life, define what your needs are, discover who you are—and whether or not it’s who you want to be.

As a married person, life is usually too hectic, on a cycle of day-in, day-out, and you don’t think about your life and whether you or on track for what you want. An affair is a jolt to your world, forcing you to look at things with fresh eyes.

In this post, I’ll share with you the 3 steps you should take before you can take optimum advantage of this opportunity for self-discovery. Read on…

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Cheaters Learn the Truth about Affairs

April 9th, 2012

Some cheaters will admit that they felt they may be “missing out” on something by being married. So, your spouse’s answer to that idea was to have an affair.

But, cheaters soon find out the truth.

In this blog, I’ll tell you what the vast majority of cheaters discover, and 3 tips for rebuilding your marriage after an affair. Keep reading…

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Dealing with Affairs and Forgiveness

January 16th, 2012

Where does forgiveness come from for people dealing with affairs? Is it the rational part of your brain, or is it the emotional part? Or do the two have to join forces?

If your spouse cheated and you’re in the aftermath of dealing with the affair, forgiveness may be the very last thing on your mind. But it’s a question that often comes up for the victim of the
affair, and one that has no easy answer.

In this blog, let’s look at forgiveness and the role of your brain in whether or not you are able to forgive. Read on…

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Marriage Infidelity: Stop it Before It Happens

November 25th, 2011

What’s the best way to handle marriage infidelity? Stop it before it happens.

If you had a crystal ball and could foresee your spouse having an affair in the coming months, what wouldn’t you do to avoid that pain—especially if you are dealing with post-affair pain now?

In this blog, I’m going to tell you about one common situation that makes for fertile ground for marriage infidelity to occur—and three precautions to take to stop an affair before it starts. Read on…

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