Research Finds Cheating Can Release This into Marriage

June 8th, 2011

A cheating spouse takes on a lot of risk when they engage in an affair, including the possibility of losing you, their friends and family, and even losing the respect of colleagues and acquaintances.

Along with cheating, your cheating spouse’s extremely poor error in judgment in having the affair has created the opportunity for one very destructive element to worm its way into your marriage.

And – it’s one that researchers say is predictive of a marriage ending in divorce.

Learn how to counteract this destructive force and save your marriage. Read on to find out more.

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The Hidden Danger in Rebuilding Honesty

June 1st, 2011

Is honesty really the best policy?

It’s a question that many of us may struggle with from time to time. But in a marriage – especially post-affair – honesty is a must-do. Without it, your marriage likely will not survive.

In this blog, we’ll look at honesty and its place in your marriage. But keep reading to discover two surprising dangers associated with adhering to “honesty is the best policy.”

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Are You Emotionally Literate?

May 25th, 2011

After you found out your spouse cheated on you, any doubts that have ever been in the background of your mind about your decision to marry your spouse come roaring to the forefront.

If you had doubts before, the affair has cemented them in your mind. You think, “I never did really understand my spouse, and my spouse certainly doesn’t seem to get me. Maybe we shouldn’t have married…”

And yet, you more than likely want to save your marriage. So refrain from regretting the past and look toward building your future. It’s possible to survive an affair and build a strong relationship—using a method I’ll share with you so you can better communicate the emotions you are feeling. Read on…

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Ask for This to Rebuild Trust After the Affair

May 18th, 2011

Anyone can be duped by a good liar. Were you?

As the victim of an affair, you were duped to some degree, either through outright tall tales, or the withholding of information and carrying out of deceptive actions.

If you want to save your marriage and rebuild trust and honestly, read on to learn two reassurances you can ask for from your cheating spouse to help you trust once again.

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The #1 Way to Overcome Obsessive, Post-Affair Images

March 7th, 2011

What’s playing in your mind today? Is it the same thing that played there yesterday? And do you really look forward to seeing it again tomorrow?

I’m talking about obsessive, post-affair images. If you are the victim of an affair, it’s highly likely that you’re experiencing a non-stop show of images that include your spouse and your spouse’s paramour. These images play themselves repeatedly, until you feel like you’re going to lose your mind.

These images become obsessive in nature, because they’ve gripped you and you can’t seem to release their hold over you. In this blog, we’ll look at the #1 way to overcome these obsessive images—and the three steps to help you accomplish it.

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Start the New Year By Examining “Forgiveness” in Your Marriage

December 28th, 2010

If your spouse cheated and your marriage is in crisis, your New Year’s resolutions more than likely involve saving your marriage.

But the wounds inflicted by the revelation of infidelity may still be fresh, and you have so much anger, you don’t know how you’ll ever get to the point where you are able to move forward.

Your spouse may have said “I’m sorry,” but it rang hollow to you—the words not giving you the closure you thought they would. Or, maybe you are still waiting to hear your spouse express remorse, and you feel your life is on hold until he or she does.

In this blog, you will go through an exercise to help you examine some of the underlying feelings you may be experiencing and what the idea of forgiveness means to you. It may provide you with a new idea of how to move forward into the New Year.

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Manage the Universal Relationship Problem—Before It Destroys Your Marriage

December 14th, 2010

In all likelihood, you and your spouse aren’t immune from the inevitable conflicts that arise in a marriage.

Anytime two people are brought together, there is bound to be conflict. There are always going to be things that you don’t agree on, whether the relationship is a marriage or a professional one.

In a marriage, conflicts that are mishandled can tear apart your marital bond, and derail your efforts toward achieving marital harmony. Add in the tumultuous effects of an affair, and you have a recipe for a powder keg to detonate when you experience conflicting views.

In this post, we’ll take a look at how you can resolve conflict with your husband or wife in a meaningful way—especially if you’re working to save your marriage after an affair.

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3 Tips to Keep Your Spouse Focused at Home, On the Marriage

December 7th, 2010

There is never a good reason or excuse for having an affair and destroying your marriage vows. Period.

A cheater is fully responsible for their actions, and the justifications they come up with to make themselves feel better. Regardless of whether or not your spouse contemplates and goes through with an affair, your marriage may still have very legitimate problems that need to be addressed.

In this post, I’ll help you examine your relationship and identify ways to remove the allure of looking outside of the marriage in order to avoid the work of solving the problems within. These tips are applicable whether you are working to save your marriage before an affair happens—or you are in a position of trying to save your marriage post-affair.

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Follow These 4 Guidelines to Help Strengthen Marriage Communication

October 19th, 2010

You say to your spouse, “I want to fix things between us, save our marriage and make it work.”

But your communication skills may be falling short in an unexpected area: what you don’t say, but what your actions may be shouting.

In this blog, you will learn how you could be derailing your own efforts to survive the affair and rebuild your marriage, and how to get your marriage back on track by following 4 guidelines.

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