Testimonials

These are real testimonies, from real people that have used the marriage-saving systems from MarriageSherpa.com. They cover everything from repairing their emotions to rebuilding the trust back into their marriage.

Please go through them and experience the kind of transformation that is possible with our systems.

“I learned how to start trusting my wife again.”

“You are a big help! You taught me how to take my wife’s reassurance at face value and quit doubting her sincerity. After doing that I learned how to start trusting my wife again.”

David Woodmansee
Moore, OK

“…we are starting over with a clean slate.”

“I have been working for a long time trying to rebuild trust with my husband after his affair. He felt that just because he was sorry and wanted to work it out that I should IMMEDIATELY trust him again and stopped talking about the affair.

“However I still had questions that were haunting me and could not move forward. Once he read your section on how to rebuild the trust, he understood more about what I needed from him!

“It is amazing that some of the things mentioned in your section are exactly what I wanted to happen. Of course when I said it, he didn’t give much thought to it but I guess seeing it in writing from an actual author made it real.

“After reading just this one section and understanding what I needed from him my husband agreed to answer ANY question in regards to his affair that I had. Believe me it wasn’t easy for either one of us to actually have to tell the truth about what happened on his part and for me to hear it.

“But now for the first time I honestly feel like we are starting over with a clean slate.

“Thank you Dr. Gunzburg!”

Nicole Williams
Oceanside, CA

“I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again.”

“Building trust has been the biggest challenge for us and at times appeared to be impossible. The tips that you provided have been great because it has made my spouse understand my feelings and needs better and I feel more secure and feel that I can begin to trust him again. Thanks!”

Lylla Childress
Cary, NY

“...you made us more understanding, open and empathetic to each other.”

“Dr. Gunzburg, you helped to restore the trust in my relationship by letting my spouse and myself both know what we were feeling and going through.

“We learned that what we are feeling and going through is okay and part of the healing process and you also taught us what the other person is feeling and you made us more understanding, open and empathetic to each other.

“You gave me hope to not to give up when we hit a rough patch, but to continue what we were doing and just keep communicating until that rough patch passed, which they do more easily and quickly now.”

Rhonda Elkins
Baltimore, MD

“I could have used this information early on.”

“I would have liked to have had this information when I first learned about the affair. I could have used this information early on.”

Doug Saylor
Snow Shoe, PA

“As I read the chapter I felt I could breathe.”

“I like the way the material is presented in the chapter. My emotional state is very clouded with information, searching for answers, grasping at anything, trying to make sense, and feelings of defeat. This chapter was very well organized. As I read the chapter I felt I could breath and begin to understand what was happening to me. What I personally like best about this chapter is how it is presented. The simplicity and structure of information put things in perspective for me so that I could sort through my emotions and begin to understand.”

Lori Ann Spinelli
Morganville, NJ

“I… like the fact that you do not condemn me for feeling that way.”

“I liked the fact that you addressed the emotions that the injured feels. My husband has cheated on me about 3 times that I know of during the course of our 10 year relationship. I have felt every emotion that you named and could add bitterness as one. I also like the fact that you do not condemn me for feeling that way.”

Nolita Jackson
Oxford, GA

“I could relate with all these stories.”

“The part I really liked was the real people telling their own stories, what they went through and what they are doing now to rebuilt their trust. I could relate with all these stories.”

Laura Rubio
Greenvale, NY

“Oh my gosh, it described exactly what I went through.”

“Oh my gosh, it described exactly what I went through. My husband and I are getting back together. They were together for 3 out of our 10 years, and I knew about it for 8 months. This has been VERY hard.”

Stephanie Swafford
Frisco, TX

“Identifying my shortcomings has made me better understand myself.”

“Even though we are still going through a very rough time in our marriage trying to cope with my past infidelities I’m stepping outside myself and realizing how inconsiderate, selfish and hurtful that I was not only to my wife, but to my children. Identifying my shortcomings has made me better understand myself and become a better husband, father and person.”

Jimmy E Garren
Vancouver, WA

“It helped me know what to watch out for and avoid.”

“The section on 10 Destructive Habits was the best! It helped me know what to watch out for and avoid. It’s very important to be forewarned of what a negative impact an action will have so you can prepare to stop it before it occurs. I will have to re-read it; perhaps several times to learn all the things that I feel will help. My initial reaction is that the whole chapter is full of useful information, much of which I hope I will have the opportunity to use. The 10 Destructive Habits that Demolish Trust and Tear Down Love was an excellent guide to what should and should not be done to attain the ultimate goal and purpose of behind reconciliation. If that is your goal than this is a very important guide to accomplishing it.”

Gerald Leenheer
Loves Park, IL

“I particularly liked the 10 conversations and questions in each.”

“I think this chapter 6 was well written, carefully thought out and exceedingly clear. I particularly liked the 10 conversations and questions in each — definitely something to do to heal a relationship. It’s a pity more couples don’t start out this way.”

A Max
Melbourne Australia

“It does work.”

“This is good information for me. It does work, and drastically reduces the tension in such situations. I am acting in a calmer manner.”

Byron F. Sonday
Hammond, IN

“You laid out a plan for me to rebuild the trust with my wife.”

“I appreciated how you laid out a plan for me to rebuild the trust with my wife. I really like your information on the 5 Building Blocks for having a transparent relationship and learned how I am guilty of doing the 10 Destructive Habits that tear down my relationship.”

R Smith
Boise, ID

“Without your support with your first book and this chapter I don’t think I would be saving my marriage right now.”

“All of what I read has made a huge impact on me. Without your support with your first book and this chapter I don’t think I would be saving my marriage right now. I know that your coaching will and is making me a better and stronger person every time I read it.”

Simone Goldie
Bairnsdale, Victoria, Australia

“…your book exactly describes what should be done.”

“I think you hit the nail on the head when you said to sort through your emotions instead of asking questions about the affair. I think people don’t know what to do when they are so numb from finding out, but your book exactly describes what should be done.”

Kristin Slagle
Milner, GA

“You really seem to understand how painful it is.”

“The 9 shockwaves you wrote about are exactly the way I feel. I am experiencing the 4 roadblocks to healing. It really helped me to see in writing that I am not going crazy or feeling things I am not supposed to feel. You really seem to understand how painful it is.”

Georgette Blemker
Fort Wayne, IN

“It is amazing how every emotion you describe, I am living through.”

“Reading it as if I could have written it. It is amazing how every emotion you describe, I am living through. I am looking for help to cope and you are giving specifics to me. I can’t make a lot of decisions now and when I have something positive to actually do, like breath, leave the house, take a walk, even though I KNOW this, because it is a plan of action, I will do it.”

Susie Fiorello
Tucker, GA

“I think you give a true road map and plan on how deal with this situation.”

“I have looked at a lot of books in the Book Stores but I find that they are too theoretical. You get right to meat of the whole thing…you don’t have to read a bunch of preliminary stuff. When you are in this situation…you want to get right to the point…and you have. Well done.. I think you give a true road map and plan on how deal with this situation. I think most people, after they get over the shock…still want to save their marriage but need to know how to go about it.”

Wayne Hansen
Vancouver, BC, Canada

“Your system has made me less angry and sad.”

“I feel more positive about the future of our relationship. Although painful at times, going through the section that helps you process your emotions was very
therapeutic. Your system has made me less angry and sad and now more hopeful of what the future will bring.”

Sue Sforc ina
Brisbane, Queensland

“Reading this will help me to control jealous feelings.”

“It’s not my fault! When my mind starts wondering and I feel anger I can think of the helpful hints that you suggest. Reading this will help me to control jealous feelings.”

Denise Boswell
Grass Valley, OR

“The weight of the world is off my shoulders.”

“The weight of the world is off my shoulders. I’ve been having anxiety attacks and now they are now gone…thank you.”

Lydia Love
Walton, NY

“The other books never had any real counsel or direction.”

“It was dead on to everything that I felt. I have sorted through countless books at the bookstore that talk about the emotions, but all it is talk. This book seems about really taking hold of it. The other books never had any real counsel or direction. This seems direct, to the point, yet compassionate.”

Amy Mitton
Mission Viejo, CA

“I no longer blame myself.”

“I have felt extreme guilt over my husband’s affair. If I had done things differently, could have seen the signs that he was becoming so unhappy then maybe I could have prevented him from looking outside our marriage. I no longer blame myself. I have come to realize that all marriages have peaks and valleys. He certainly wasn’t meeting all of my needs either but I didn’t go outside my marriage to make myself feel better. I believed that we were an exceptional couple and when I realized that our marriage was in trouble, I gave him 200% and that still didn’t stop him from continuing with the affair.”

Melody Rost
Muncie, IN

“I felt as if you are my personal friend.”

“Just about everything you mentioned I was able to relate to. I felt as if you are my personal friend that knows what I’ve been through and understands that I am still trying to find the way to adjust to the changes in my life.”

Laureen Rose
Douglas County, GA

“…these are normal emotions…thank you.”

“You addressed the varied emotions accurately and summed it up by telling the betrayed person that these are normal emotions…thank you. Though one feels ‘crazy’ as we are buried beneath this avalanche of emotion, we have a natural urge to dig ourselves out from beneath that rumble and fight for our survival.”

Esther Gold
Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario, Canada

“I liked the exercise to sit and really think about the emotions that you are feeling.”

“I liked the exercise to sit and really think about the emotions that you are feeling deep down inside. I’ve had a tendency to bottle them up and then just blow up over something very small. Also, one of the emotions that I didn’t expect was love. It made me realize that despite the other feelings, I still love my husband.”

Lisa Gillow
Avoca, PA

“You helped me discover and begin to sort through the emotions that were hidden by hurt and fear.”

“Chapter 1 did exactly as stated… You helped me discover and begin to sort through the emotions that were hidden by hurt and fear.”

Michelle Penrice
Saskatoon, Saskatchewan

“I liked the exercises the best.”

“I liked the exercises the best. It was the first time I saw advice on how to work through it. There is plenty of material affirming how betrayed spouses feel out there, but little on what to actually do with of those emotions and thoughts.”

Nancy A. Brown
Whitehouse, OH

“Your questions have been empowering.”

“I will definitely be able to face the turmoil I’ve been keeping pent up inside in a constructive way. Until now, I’ve been avoiding dealing with the myriad of thoughts and emotions out of fear that I wouldn’t be able to cope. Your questions have been empowering in the sense that I feel there is a logical and safe way to reflect on things and be able to heal myself.”

Valerie Martinez
San Marcos, TX

“By just following the steps you have mentioned I have regained some control of ‘our’ life, without even demanding it.”

“I am able to converse with my partner in a more positive respectful manner; I am able to laugh. I am being myself, we’ve talking and laughing, simple things are pleasurable again. On Sunday we actually had dinner in the park, and spent 3 hours just sitting and chatting away. This could NEVER happen as recent as 2 weeks ago. By just following the steps you have mentioned I have regained some control of ‘our’ life, without even demanding it. I know I’ve got a lot of work and a long and perhaps difficult road ahead, but I know that if I keep practicing I’ll make it.”

Nicole A.
Brooklyn, NY

“You have taught me how to cope.”

“You information was so helpful to me. I realized that you cannot skip over anything in your system because if you did you’ll gloss over important information. You have taught me how to cope with this and not explode.”

Brandon Miller
Hesperia, CA

“…it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone.”

“It’s nice to have someone describe accurately what I was feeling at the time. And it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. Now I have better control over my emotions and talking to a lot of friends has really helped. Thanks.”

Joyce
Auckland, New Zealand

“I was able to carry on.”

“Your system is amazing. It gives you the strength to carry on in life and never to assume that it is over just because of an emotional break down. I was able to carry on instead of thinking it was over.”

Temitope Olorunshola
Kogi, Nigeria

“I am experiencing many of the feelings you’ve written about.”

“Even though the problems still exist I feel more capable to deal with them. I am experiencing many of the feelings you’ve written about. Some of these feelings are ugly and ones I didn’t think I was capable of feeling. Seeing it written validates these feelings and has given me some options in dealing with them — or at least good advice not to act on them.”

Alisa Comber
Madison, WI

“I truly felt as if I were going crazy.”

“I think I’m better equipped to look at the different aspects of his affair and not go ballistic. Also my husband read this and we seem better able to communicate about our emotions. All of it helped me to know that these things I’m feeling are normal. I truly felt as if I were going crazy.”

Becky Meshanko
Albany, GA

“I really wasn’t alone.”

“I liked the fact that it helped me put names to what I was feeling. That I really wasn’t alone in feeling such rage and anguish.”

Maria L. Hutchinson
Trenton, NJ

“…the emotions I am dealing with are normal.”

“Seeing that the emotions I am dealing with are normal for what I have been through.”

Margaret Gumns
Michigan City, IN

“You clarified emotions.”

“You clarified emotions and the steps of healing.”

Beth Minasi
Washingtonville, NY

“I wasn’t alone with all of my mixed emotion.”

“I really was surprised and relieved to see that I wasn’t alone with all of my mixed emotions. Also how to realize when and how to express what exactly you are feeling.”

Judy Szyszka
StoneyCreek, Ontario, Canada

“Proceed with the intent of staying together”

“(I learned) How to proceed with the intent of staying together.”

Amy Query
Boulder, CO

“…it wasn’t my fault no matter what type of partner I was (am).”

“Reaffirmation that my emotions are normal and felt by others. I liked the emergency ways to deal with my emotions, and that you consistently reminded me that it wasn’t my fault no matter what type of partner I was (am).”

Angela Miranda
Kapaa, HI

“It was very helpful to get advice.”

“It was very helpful to get advice on how to handle these powerful and sometimes obsessive feelings.”

Nanci von Jacobi
Smithfield, VA

“Every emotion, every thought. It is like degrees of mourning.”

“It was exactly what I have been going through. Every emotion, every thought. It is like degrees of mourning. It was empowering that I was normal.”

Pam Krantz
Holly, MI

“I got a good chance to look at myself in the mirror.”

“It was nice to read that the emotions that I had felt were not only about the affair but by looking inward I got a good chance to look at myself in the mirror and sort through all the other emotions that have been burying me alive.”

Meredith Balasco
Hope, RI

“…I learned how to acknowledge the negative emotions of anger, rage, hurt, pain, jealousy, betrayal.”

“I learned how to acknowledge the negative emotions of anger, rage, hurt, pain, jealousy, betrayal & turn inward for healing & releasing these emotions. But not acting out in a way that would be harmful.”

Irene E. Williams
Marion, SC

“…get in tuned with what emotions come up was scary but very awakening.”

“The best part of chapter 1 was it identified all the emotions and the ways I can work through them. The part about taking the time out to think about the affair and to get in tuned with what emotions come up was scary but very awakening.”

Jeanette Collins
San Jose, CA

“You were able to bring these emotions to light.”

“The straight forwardness, which compelled me to acknowledge my feelings; I feel a little relieved that you were able to bring these emotions to light in an way that compelled me to not sit back and blame myself; while wallowing in self pity, and unnecessary guilt.”

Nicole A.
Brooklyn, NY

“Now I know how to take better care of myself.”

“You really showed me that by doing negative things it only worsens the situation and makes me unhappier. Now I know how to take better care of myself instead of continuing to punish myself. Thank you.”

Melissa Guevara
Stockton, CA

“I liked the advice to get exercise, breathe and talk to friends.”

“I liked the advice to get exercise, breathe and talk to friends. I am 8 months into the divorce and knowledge of the affair; I have utilized all of these things to get me through each day.”

Cheryl Hayes
Los Osos, CA

“The pain is sometimes unbearable.”

“You helped me to see and understand some of the feelings I am feeling… I have to keep telling my self that it was not my fault. The pain is sometimes unbearable and but I want to understand and to be able to love again.”

Lynda Haas
Dallas, NC

“I liked how it was laid out.”

“I liked how it was laid out in simple easy to read terms.”

Elizabeth Penprase
Sydney, NSW

“I wish that I had read this whole book when I first started to feel all of these emotions.”

“I thought that the chapter would be very helpful for someone who has just found out about the betrayal. For me it has been about 7 months so I have already been through all of those emotions. I wish that I had read this whole book when I first started to feel all of these emotions.”

Jess Watts
Rutland, VT

“It… had all the questions that I was asking myself.”

“I loved it all. It confirmed all the emotions I was feeling and that I was normal and not alone. It also had all the questions that I was asking myself. Like why and I would have never thought, guilt, blaming myself, am I overreacting etc.”

Esther Orlando
Traverse City, MI

“…identifying the exact emotions that I have been feeling is helpful.”

“(I learned) Mainly that identifying the exact emotions that I have been feeling is helpful. One of the things I have felt is that I was crazy for taking so long to get over the betrayal and to control my constant questioning about what my spouse is doing all of the time. It has been 8 mos. since I found out, he told me, and I still have the fantasies when he is away for a long period of time that he is meeting or talking to the woman. I hope that these feelings will go away soon, for good.”

Rita Martin
Long Island, NY

“What I like best is the constant reassurance.”

“All the emotions are there and they are real. This reassures me that it is normal and I can deal with it and perhaps eventually become a stronger and better person than I could have been had I not had to weather this storm….what I like best is the constant reassurance that I so much need to believe this was in no way my fault.”

Pat Pontorero
Uniontown, PA

“You made me feel that this horrible ordeal may be the bottom of a roller coaster headed towards the top.”

“Learning about putting a list together of things that are certain in life, and looking at that list when things seem uncertain really helped. You made me feel that this horrible ordeal may be the bottom of a roller coaster headed towards the top.”

Trudy Johnson
Armarillo, TX

“You helped me to deal with my feelings of rage and anger.”

“(I learned) How to cope with feelings of jealousy towards the other woman and to accept the fact that my husband has chosen to stay with me rather than go to the other woman. You also helped me to deal with my feelings of rage and anger.”

Lilette Webber
Tamworth England

“…helped me to see in writing where these feelings are coming from.”

“The explanation of the origins of each of these emotions has helped me to see in writing where these feelings are coming from.”

Susan Howard
Portland, OR

“I’m looking forward to doing the journaling activities.”

“I liked the fact that it centered on how to start with me first. It validated almost every single emotion I’ve been experiencing so I know now that what I’ve been thinking and feeling is normal. I’m looking forward to doing the journaling activities since I think that will not only help me reflect on things but also be a way to release my thoughts in a focused manner instead of keeping them swimming around in my head.”

Valerie Martinez
San Marcos, TX

“I thank you for making me know my feelings are legit.”

“This chapter hit the hammer on a lot of nails for me. It has been 3 years since the affair and 2 years since I found out and I feel like I was made to feel like my feelings didn’t count. The affair was over for over a year, I had a feeling of something going on, asked my husband and felt like a blind fool believing his lies back then—when he made me feel like I over reacted. I appreciated the total transparency comment which has been an issue in our relationship, thank you for making me know my feelings are legit.”

Lori Bradshaw
Bowling Green, Missouri

“It was helpful to have important points in numbered groups with each point.”

“I liked the empathetic straightforward writing style. It was helpful to have important points in numbered groups with each point within the group given good explanation.”

Susan Fu
Downers Grove, IL

“I like where you tell us to do something for our self.”

“What I like best about the chapter is your ideas you give us to get past feeling it is our fault when in turn it is the other person who decide to go this way of dealing with their problem, I find my self to feeling so same a person will reach out to some one else in a affair rather then deal with the real problem at hand. I like where you tell us to do something for our self, I find out that really help.”

Linda Johnson
Denver, CO

“I learned that the affair was not my fault and I should stop blaming myself and stop asking why.”

“I learned that the affair was not my fault and I should stop blaming myself and stop asking why. I was set in a pattern of trying to figure out how I could have let this happen. I realize now that even though I made many mistakes, (she) chose to have the affairs.”

Patrick Cave
Hollywood, FL

“…it is healthy to feel, and work through the emotions, not just move on as if the affair never happened.”

“(I liked) How you identified the common reactions and how extreme they can be. That it is healthy to feel, and work through the emotions, not just move on as if the affair never happened. Also, the healing and coping strategies. And the hard truth that he could cheat again, to face reality, as tough as it is.”

Tara Miller
Hartland, WI

“Reading (this) helped me pinpoint my feelings rather than just feeling ‘empty’.”

“Reading about the emotions that are common after the affair helped me pinpoint my feelings rather than just feeling ‘empty’. I know that I feel betrayed and confused and sad.”

Anne C.
Omaha, NE

“It helped me realize it wasn’t my fault.”

“It helped me realize it wasn’t my fault and how to help myself get back to my view of life.”

Lydia Love
Walton, NY

“The roadblock that discussed being a doormat was very helpful for me.. Thank you :)”

“You Are Not A Doormat? The roadblock that discussed being a doormat was very helpful for me. I constantly struggled with feelings that I was not a strong woman to tolerate this affair, and I felt like I was weak and foolish to still want to save my marriage. I also struggled with feelings that it takes two. My spouse and his family blamed me for the affair. I drove him to do it. I realize now that I was dying a slow death inside believing this and internalizing this blame. This book has made a huge positive impact on me now that I see it was good to be a doormat and it wasn’t my fault. Thank you.”

Lori Ann Spinelli
Morganville, NJ

“(It) made me feel like there is hope.”

“It may sound simple, but reading the words that my wife chose to be with me in the end, made me feel like there is hope.”

Andrew Gamm
Mesquite, TX

“…people who want to work their relationships out after an affair and to forgive, are not a doormat.”

“I liked that it was mentioned that people who want to work their relationships out after an affair and to forgive, are not a doormat, but are people who have strong will to learn and rebuild their love again.”

Melissa Susan Etheredge
Newport News, VA

“The part that had the most impact on me at this current time was the section on paranoia.”

“The part that had the most impact on me at this current time was the section on paranoia. I think that I am stuck in this stage and do not know how to 100% trust again.”

Jess Watts
Rutland, VT

“I can maybe gain back the trust that was taken and make my marriage an even stronger bond.”

“That I can maybe gain back the trust that was taken and make my marriage an even stronger bond. At this point in my life I find that hard to believe. But then again it has only been two weeks since I have asked my husband to leave our home. So things are pretty fresh and I am still extremely hurting.”

Esther Orlando
Traverse City, MI

“You helped me realize that I have to work on inner self to start healing.”

“You helped me realize that I have to work on inner self to start healing. I do become obsessive with trying to get even, or getting him back and all it does is backfire on me. I keep pushing my healing process back.”

Tonya Terryberry
Smithville, Ontario, Canada

“I was concerned that this was a unique reaction to me, and that I had somehow been transformed into a hard, callous person.”

“Reading the testimonials from both men and women regarding anger and violent feelings had a huge positive impact for me. I’m a pacifist by nature and detest violence, but after learning of the affair, I had incredible feelings of rage and anger. I was concerned that this was a unique reaction to me, and that I had somehow been transformed into a hard, callous person.”

Mike Louvau
Berkeley, CA

“I liked the idea that focusing on myself.”

“I liked the idea that focusing on myself will help me through this, and the repeated concepts that this is not my fault.”

Marian Lee
South Orange, NJ

“I really like the idea of writing down my feelings.”

“I really like the idea of writing down my feelings. I didn’t want to do that for fear that my husband or kids would find it one day and read it but I know that writing down my thoughts will help me help myself faster. I can focus on all the issues that I have.”

Anne C.
Omaha, NE

“I have a sense of relief.”

“Since it is recommended to work on my emotions before trying to move forward with ‘fixing’ the relationship I have a sense of relief. I felt it was necessary, but struggled with what was more important.”

Jeanette Collins
San Jose, CA

“I will be able to start learning to look more inside myself to be able to come to terms with things.”

“I feel that I will be able to start learning to look more inside myself to be able to come to terms with things. I hope I can learn how to deal with different emotions I feel and learn how to control them or channel them into some other more positive reaction. I will try and get out more for exercise, understanding that exercise can help to ‘lift’ my moods.”

Elizabeth Penprase
Sydney, NSW

“I am aware of my emotions and now I am dealing with them.”

“I am starting to deal with the anger, bitterness, resentment and hurt. I would bring up the affairs that my husband had and throw them in his face. Of course, that did not solve anything. I would lash out in anger and I would not get a response. I am concentrating on my healing now. I am aware of my emotions and now I am dealing with them.”

Nolita Jackson
Oxford, GA

“I am now going to try to implement an exercise routine to help me cope.”

“I am now going to try to implement an exercise routine to help me cope with my anger and frustration as well as focusing on the stability I do have such as my kids.”

Holly King
Sacramento, CA

“I now know that I will be able to move on and start healing and letting go of the guilt.”

“After reading chapter 1 I now know that I will be able to move on and start healing and letting go of the guilt being the number one factor since after finding out about the affair I had asked my husband to move out and this has disrupted our whole family including my three girls which brings me even more guilt. I now realize that this is what needed to be done to maybe down the road built a stronger marriage should this be the road I take.”

Esther Orlando
Traverse City, MI

“…I am being more transparent.”

“After my affair, you have taught me how to have a new level of accountability with my wife and I am being more transparent with her.”

Tom Sanders
Ashville, AL

“My husband has forgiven me.”

“I wish I could have read this before I tried to go back to my lover. This time it is over and I have cut all contact. My husband has forgiven me and I will work on re-building my marriage. We are both working on it together, and spending quality time together. I have moved on from the affair and now concentrate on the good things in my marriage. Your information is so valuable to me, and spot on, thank you.”

Mandy Horeld
Brisbane, Queensland

“…these are all normal feelings and eventually I will survive.”

“I really liked how you described the feelings that are happening to me…guilt, hopelessness, loneliness, etc. I figure I deserve to be experiencing these things and I do, but it was nice to read that these are all normal feelings and eventually, I will survive. I have seen some changes…my husband is beginning to act like he trusts me more.”

Barbara Geissler
Tyrone, OK

“…make a great deal of sense.”

“All of the parts of the chapter to the cheater (me) have helped me to make sense of the emotions and feelings that are being experienced in the aftermath of my affair. The explanations are incredibly accurate and make a great deal of sense in a world of turmoil.”

Keith Wilkins
Headcom, Kentucky

“I have more confidence that we will heal.”

“Thank you for teaching me how to be patient and positive regarding rebuilding the trust. I have more confidence that we will heal.”

Paul Sikkel
Almo, Kentucky

“This has helped to diminish some of my guilt rather quickly.”

“Your examples of others’ pain helped me to realize that my own pain wasn’t all that unique and your discussions of excessive guilt helped me to realize that I may have unresolved issues and simply reading this has helped to diminish some of my guilt rather quickly. I feel more like I’ll be able to pull through this.”

Mark Serbian
Poway, CA

“…my husband and I are talking more.”

“My affair just ended 4 days ago and I will definitely end all communication with my lover and I will try to communicate better with my husband and be sensitive to his feelings as well but most importantly I will try to forgive myself. But one thing I have noticed is my husband and I are talking more plus the feelings of guilt and shame are getting better.”

Jami Engelman
Arvada, CO

“…I have actually become more transparent with my wife.”

“You helped me, mostly from the absolute step of ending the affair and any contact with the other person, to the emotional after affects and how I have actually become more transparent with my wife, while I’m still in a little pain. Thanks.”

Sean M Thomas
Ashburn, VA

“… I am reassured that I am acting correctly.”

“You do a wonderful job hitting all the various feelings and issues that the cheater feels. Thankfully I have done much of what you suggested, but now I am reassured that I am acting correctly and that my emotions are natural. Thank you.”

V Smith
Epsom, NH

“I wish I had read this before the relationship ended.”

“The parts of your system that were most helpful to me were the 7 Emotional Trials the Cheater Will Face, as well as the section on Becoming Transparent. I never really looked at it from that point of view. It was very helpful, although a little too late. Unfortunately my relationship ended on my birthday. I wasn’t aware that my actions simply didn’t demonstrate a type of ‘transparent’ behavior. I wish I had read this before the relationship ended. Thank you, I will make it a point never to cheat again.”

Veronica Besch
Independence, MO

“…gave me a better perspective on the type of emotions my mate is going through.”

“Being that I am the one who did the injury to my mate and I really don’t know the ‘real’ impact of my actions. Reading chapter 3 (to the injured person) gave me a better idea of the type of emotions my mate is going through and it gave me a better perspective on the type emotions my mate is dealing with and how I can help to allow him really work through his healing.”

Dora Toulon
Brooklyn, NY

“…he wants to stay with me and I want to stay with him.”

“Your information was right on target for what my husband has been feeling and it has surely given him some hope which makes me feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel. There is hope for us because he wants to stay with me and I want to stay with him.”

Denise Bourg
Moblie, AL

“This will help me learn how to be more understanding.”

“I like knowing what my husband is going through after I hurt him like that. This will help me learn how to be more understanding of what he is going through.”

Crystal,
NY

“I was making the mistake of pressuring him”

“I will be more patient, nurturing and allow him all the space he needs to come to terms with his feelings. I was making the mistake of pressuring him with too many issues immediately after he found out and I now know that I was making a huge mistake. I don’t want to push him away.”

Veronica Vasquez
Del Valle, TX

“I know that I can change my behavior and save this marriage.”

“I loved chapter 3 to the injured person, it is what I feel my husband needs. We are separated and he believes that we can never reconcile, however I believe we can. I used to wallow in a pool of guilt for the pain I have caused him, but now I know that I can change my behavior and save this marriage. Thank you for this information.”

Melissa Houston
Citris Heights, CA

“…our relationship can be saved and even improved.”

“Thank you for taking the 8 major emotions and breaking them down and relating them to the affair. This helped me to understand my husband’s emotions. It gives me hope that my husband can heal and our relationship can be saved and even improved.”

Lori Gamblin
Gadsden, Alabama

“I will patiently listen to my partner’s pain.”

“This showed me how to proceed with the intent of staying together. I will patiently listen to my partner’s pain.”

Amy Query
Boulder, CO

“Instead of blaming my partner for the affair, it has made me feel more accountable.”

“I can empathize with my partner and understand how my affair has caused them to feel these different types of emotions. Instead of blaming my partner for the affair, it has made me feel more accountable.”

Cheryl Jansen
Long Beach, CA

“Our relationship has already improved.”

“The information I learned will help my husband make changes. Our relationship has already improved.”

Linda Helmeczi
Edmonton, Alberta
Canada

“I like how you explained and gave advice on each word.”

“I like how you explained and gave advice on each word, breaking it down and explaining what it means with an example. This was very helpful.”

Kris Romero
Montclair, CA

“I feel more equipped in explaining how I feel.”

“Thank you! After reading this chapter, I feel more equipped in explaining how I feel to my husband.”

Denise
Winnipeg, Manitoba

“I’m starting to understand how important communication is.”

“After reading this chapter, I’m starting to understand how important communication is and how easy it is to neglect. I am now more likely to address issues that bother me. After reading your advice, I try not to suppress my feelings so he understands how I feel.”

Penny Estabillo
Hillsborough, NJ

“This chapter taught me how to listen more and slow life down.”

“This chapter taught me how to listen more and slow life down, sit on the deck and listen to the birds.”

Louise Taylor
Langley BC Canada

“…now realize my 50 percent of the blame in pushing him towards another woman.”

“I agreed with the section on looking for factors that caused the Cheater to Cheat. I already did this, and now realize my 50 percent of the blame in pushing him towards another woman.”

Kim Maughan
Melbourne, Victoria

“I found this information and the lessons discussed to be extremely helpful.”

“Your article and others that I have read discuss unmet needs as a common problem. I found this information and the lessons discussed to be extremely helpful in understanding my own situation.”

Michael Jester
Newark, DE

“It is very powerful information.”

“Wow — I need to read the whole chapter again. It is very powerful information. I appreciate the advice to revisit earlier steps and then move on. I am so amazed by your work with this subject.”

Marcia Haigh
Norfolk, MA

“The chapter showed me how I can adjust my communication skills.”

“Thank you for pointing out the needs being neglected and communicating them effectively. I’ll take time to listen and apply myself to fill his needs and be honest about mine. The chapter showed me how I can adjust my communication skills to actually hear what he is telling me and communicate my needs specifically to him. The ‘Neglecting your Partner’s Needs’ section was worded in a way that I understood, including what my feelings or assumptions had to do with the problems in our relationship.”

Cindy Archuleta
Evans, Colorado

“I’m also going to pay more attention to what my partner wants or needs.”

“I’m going to discuss this section with my partner to help with our problems. I’m also going to pay more attention to what my partner wants or needs, but won’t or isn’t telling me.”

Brandon C. Miller
Hesperia, CA

“The part of the chapter that helped me the most the explanation of why cheaters cheat.”

“The part of the chapter that helped me the most the explanation of why cheaters cheat. I also appreciated the responsibility part as well. This relates directly to my relationship and helps me deal with our issues.”

Danielle Harrison
Humble, TX

“This chapter showed me ways to ask myself what I need.”

“Thank you for breaking down the 10 critical dimensions into specific parts of the relationship. This chapter showed me ways to ask myself what I need out of each of these parts. This section supported my belief that, over time, we have forgotten to make time for each other and make our desires known to the other. I can now address this.”

Danielle Serna
Morris, IL

“I like the complete apology you gave.”

“Needing an apology is very important. I like the complete apology you gave. I am glad that some of the work in forgiveness is already complete, and this chapter makes me realize some of the work we have done on ’instinct’ has been good.”

Jennifer Privee
Haymarket, VA

“Your list of questions helped me tremendously.”

“Your list of questions helped me tremendously. There are so many things that I want to know. Now I know how to work through them.”

Betty McGuire
Danville, KY

“I gained information about how to treat my spouse.”

“I really loved your detailed steps describing how to apologize, and what an apology really is. I gained information about how to treat my spouse. I’ve learned to live by the rule that if I wouldn’t yell at him in church, I should not yell at him at home, no matter how angry I am.”

Trudy
Albuquerque, NM

“The section on healing benefits us the most.”

“I accepted my partner again, but didn’t know how to heal. The section on healing benefits us the most, offering specific tips and guides to work through.”

Jackie Lien Fulton
Plainview, TX

“You’ve shown me how to accept the past and move into a better future.”

“You’ve shown me how to accept the past and move into a better future. This section helped me a great deal. I have also come to realize that living in the past offers me no hope. We have in our own way used many of the steps you outline in this chapter. This chapter will be an excellent tool for those couples who read it. It is an absolute requirement if a couple is to find healing in their relationship.”

Pat Jardin
Atlanta, GA

“The whole chapter on healing was very informative on what steps can be taken to heal.”

“The whole chapter on healing was very informative on what steps can be taken to heal. If I was aware of this information prior to my separation, I’m sure I would have handled things differently.”

Kerwin Rivera
Bronx, NY

“This chapter showed me that it will not be fixed now, but that it will take time to mend.”

“This chapter showed me that it will not be fixed now, but that it will take time to mend. It showed me that it’s not my fault. I’ve also learned to be more patient. I loved the way it was presented because it was easy to relate with, showing you how to handle different situations more appropriately.”

Brenda Hinsdale-Dewey
Lexington Park, MD

“This chapter on healing helped me learn how to put myself in my husband’s shoes”

“This chapter on healing helped me learn how to put myself in my husband’s shoes — or at least trying to. This will help me to better understand what he is going through on his end and try to help him to cope better with his actions. I will try not to react as angrily in our conversations. More importantly, I will try not to be self-righteous.”

Melissa Henry
Southport, NC

“I appreciate the tips on what to do if you begin to feel anger creeping in.”

“One of my favorite parts was about the anger I feel, helping me realize that it is natural to be angry but it needs to be handled properly. I appreciate the tips on what to do if you begin to feel anger creeping in. I will be making an effort to recognize when my anger begins to creep in and then make the necessary adjustments to overcome this feeling and help it subside. The chapter on healing helps me see some of the ways that both I and my spouse have stepped into the minefields. Now I will be more aware of the minefields and avoid them altogether as best I can.”

Luke Suggs
Dora, AL

“I loved the section about the angry outbursts.”

“I loved the section about the angry outbursts. I have been experiencing them once in a blue moon, seemingly out of nowhere. I love the advice about imagine a church setting, behave like that. I also loved the part about it being natural to want to work it all out at once.”

Tara Miller
Hartland, WI

“I will try not to get so angry when we do try and discuss our feelings.”

“The part describing that I need to look at myself and what I could have done differently in the relationship to have helped made it more better for the both of us, not just putting all the blame on the other person, but also realizing that it was not. I will try not to get so angry when we do try and discuss our feelings and the affair. I will also try and listen better to what the other person is saying and try to see where they are coming from when they are speaking about what has happened.”

Jackie Matyjasik
Lincoln Park, MI

“I need to give our reconciliation more time.”

“This chapter was very helpful because we both thought that this process would go much quicker. I will definitely work more on handling my anger and jealousy. I realize that I need to give our reconciliation more time and my husband time to work out his feelings as well.”

Lisa Gillow
Avoca, PA

“…you really hit the nail on the head.”

“Dear Dr. Gunzburg, Your section on ‘Creating a Transparent Relationship’ is fantastic! A couple that I have been working with was stuck and still at risk of losing their relationship…until now! Your written words spoke so clearly and straight to the point that he now understands what (and why!) is needed and she is feeling empowered at having read the words to what she was feeling. They feel that you ‘really hit the nail on the head’ and so do I. This is a must-read!”

Sharon Shenker, Montreal, Quebec, Canada,
Family-Relationship Coach and founder
Director of Divorce Support PLUS,
www.divorcesupportplus.ca
514-487-5577

“Thank you for making it clear.”

“Thank you for making it clear what I need to do on a daily basis to rebuild the trust with my wife.”

Bobbi B
Massena, NY

“You offer real tips.”

“You offer real tips instead of being ‘preachy’ like most marriage books.”

Sheila Carter
Commerce, GA

“You gave me hope.”

“You gave us a plan for rebuilding the trust again and you gave me hope.”

Tarsha Geddie
Lanham, MD

“You opened my eyes.”

“I’m thankful for your sound advice and teaching me how to make my relationship warm again. You opened my eyes to the destructive things I was doing in my relationship and how I was not being fair with my wife by putting all the shame and guilt on her.”

Greg Allars
Aylesbury, UK

“…step-by-step stages to helping us heal.”

“I love how this is wonderfully written, easy to read and offers great step-by-step stages to helping us heal.”

Carole Beckett
London

“…speed up the healing process.”

“You are helping us speed up the healing process. Thank you for an excellent guide.”

Virginia Trott
Montgomery AL

“…taught me exactly what to do.”

“I understood everything very well and appreciate how you taught me exactly what to do to restore the trust.”

Sheila Gardiner
Hillsboro, MO

“How to get my husband to understand.”

“I appreciate what you have done by teaching me how to get my husband to understand what he did to me.”

Billi Tomasini
Vancouver, WA

“…you even told me what to do when I fail at fixing it.”

“Not only did you give me step-by-step directions on how to fix it, you even told me what to do when I fail at fixing it. I am at a point now where I am starting to trust again.”

Tanya Mancera
Waco TX

“Very Honest.”

“Very honest and to the point. What you gave me was something easy to follow with understandable instructions.”

L Moff
Rialto, CA

“…very specific ways to rebuild the trust.”

“Thank you for giving me very specific ways to rebuild the trust, not generic statements. I appreciate it.”

Ron Smith
Everett, WA

“Your information is like a revolution.”

“Your information is like a revolution! Everyday the trust in my marriage is building more and more! I really like the steps to rebuilding trust. this is really hard to do but these steps will make it easier.”

Sylvia Williams
Houston, TX

“What you did was give me hope.”

“Thank you for explaining step by step what needed to be done I read so many things through this ordeal and I just wanted to find something that would tell me what I need to do and that is what I found here. What you did was give me hope that the trust can be restored again.”

Shelly Jones
St. Clairsville, OH

“…I am guilty of doing a lot of harmful things.”

“I love my wife, but I am guilty of doing a lot of harmful things. All I ever needed was for someone to explain to me how much damage that I do to her and now I understand what I was doing. This was a real confirmation to me. Thank you!”

Randy
Indiana

“Now he knows how much it means to me.”

“My husband had a problem with me calling him all the time and asking him what he was doing. Now he knows how much it means to me to know where he is. He even calls me more than I call him now and he had his password changed to his voicemail where I only know it and I can check all messages. Your advice changed everything and helped us in appositive way rebuild our trust.thanks a lot.”

Vickey Maroon
Broken Arrow, OK

“…I can start in small stages.”

“You helped me realize that it will take time but I can start in small stages to begin to trust again. The building block sections helped break down what to do which has helped the most.”

Wilda Dandridge
Pfugerville, TX

“…you covered the feelings I was having.”

“Dr. Gunzburg, you covered the feelings that I was having, and validated them as normal. I needed that.”

Layne Conaway
El Reno, OK

“…we are now in the process of talking.”

“I was the one who cheated. My significant other has gotten to the first step of wanting to try to work things out with me. We are now in the process of talking in a more normal manner. I am going to live a transparent life, as I don’t ever want to have him doubt me again.”

Meri G
New York

“…you gave me insight into what I need to do.”

“You tackled the problems and you gave me insight into what I need to do.”

James Wool
New Jersey

“…we are doing many of the things suggested.”

“Fortunately, we are doing many of the things suggested. Rebuilding is hard and forgiveness is really the only answer. However, both partners must admit to not meeting each others needs prior to the affair. I now know that I was not meeting my husband’s needs and he wasn’t meeting any of mine.”

Pamela Sawyer
Charlotte, NC

“…it helps to have specific suggestions for moving forward.”

“In the midst of something so emotionally devastating, it helps to have specific suggestions for moving forward. Thanks.”

Gina Parks
Mobile, AL

“I appreciated the way you expressed the different types of trust.”

“I appreciated the way you expressed the different types of trust. Most people I’ve spoken with believe in all or nothing when it comes to trusting a spouse and are unable to reach beyond the fidelity issue. I’ll try to extrapolate the idea of different aspects of relationships to other areas of my life.”

Paulette Markman
Houston, TX

“I was feeling that my ‘suspicious’ feelings were bad for me.”

“The truly value the part of the chapter that said it’s natural for the ‘injured’ party to feel suspicion. I was feeling that my ‘suspicious’ feelings were bad for me in the effort to find trust again in our relationship.”

Bob Bush
Plano, TX

“I am noticeably more open and understanding.”

“This book helped me realize that a healthy relationship is primarily about predictability. I will learn to listen and be generally more attentive. I am noticeably more open and understanding of why affairs can happen. The10 Destructive Habits that Demolish Trust and Tear Down Love helped me see these habits itemized in list form, helping me identify. This created a greater awareness of how easily they can cause problems if not understood.”

Shasta Lang
Toronto Canada

“I have learned that I need to consider my spouse’s efforts”

“The self destructive behaviors overview showed me what not to do. I try to be more aware of those destructive behaviors and develop good behaviors that will benefit and not harm my marriage. This chapter showed that I need to take stock of all the effort my spouse does make, and realize that it won’t happen overnight. I have learned that I need to consider my spouse’s efforts to reassure me and not always look for the negative.”

Maria
Planada, CA

“Now, I try to focus on nurturing the trust within the relationship.”

“I loved the part describing our breaking-down-the-trust issue. I didn’t really think before about all the different issues relating to trusting someone. I was focusing purely on the issue of fidelity. Now, I try to focus on nurturing the trust within the relationship, the trust that is already there, and I know the fidelity issue with follow. The Transparency section helped me realize now how hard my husband is trying to rebuild the trust in our marriage and what he is doing to make sure that I cannot misinterpret his intentions for anything.”

Donna Morris
Aberdeen, Scotland

“I have already identified some the efforts that my partner has been exhibiting.”

“My favorite sections were ‘The Five Types of Trust’, the bulleted summaries and the destructive habits to avoid. I will view the healing process in a more open and less selfish perspective. I have already identified some the efforts that my partner has been exhibiting. My fear and hesitation has decreased and has assisted me in moving forward and not feeling stuck in the hurt. It also illustrated that the undulating feelings of suspicion are natural and just need to be worked through. The F Forms of Trust in a Relationship section broadens the view of trust and that, with infidelity, the other areas can be used to support the reconstruction of building trust again in this area that has been weakened.”

Diana Stafford
Victoria, TX

“It gave me the idea that there is hope to trust again.”

“I loved The Five Forms of Trust in a Relationship section. It gave me the idea that there is hope to trust again. Building Blocks for a totally transparent relationship is also helpful, offering step-by-step and practical guideline towards transparency.”

Lily Kwa
Anaheim, CA

“It’s very clearly written and easy to understand.”

“I found the entire chapter helpful. It is informational, logical and offers step-by-step instructions. It’s very clearly written and easy to understand. More importantly I’d be comfortable with any or all of the strategies your discussed. I now have a better picture of the steps that need to be taken to restore my trust in my husband. This section also helped me see that my previous requests for transparency were not at all unreasonable. Your book gives logical and thoughtful suggestions.”

Demelza Riley
North Bend, WA

“Each highlighted area struck home.”

“It reaffirmed what I already believed in plain English. Each highlighted area struck home so to speak. I now feel like I am not going nuts.”

Yvonne Hoban
Arlington, TX

“This chapter let me see that I can still trust some areas of our relationship.”

“This chapter let me see that I can still trust some areas of our relationship. While I find it difficult to believe his answers to my questions concerning the other woman, I now know how to tackle our issues responsibly.”

Joyce Corbin
Valley, AL

“Your chapter enlightened me.”

“I enjoyed the section on communication. I always figured good communication just happened naturally in a relationship if two good communicators were involved. Your chapter enlightened me on the fact that good communication requires good listening and doesn’t just happen. I came to the realization that good communication in a relationship doesn’t just happen. You have to plan, take time and implement.”

Theresa Marson
Phoenix, AZ

“All of the items discussed are important to renewing a damaged relationship.”

“The whole section on communication was beneficial. In the way it was presented, it placed a ‘whole lot of stuff’ in an understandable format for me. All of the items discussed are important to renewing a damaged relationship. Although it is a risk, communicating timely rather than allowing issues to fester and as a result both of us drawing away from one another. I have a better understanding of the needs associated with recreating my relationship. It put into words feelings and thoughts that I have.”

Sherry Mendel
Elmira, NY

“Gave me ideas and ways to communicate with out placing blame.”

“Your section on conflict resolution will help me the most, as I have never approached it in the proper way. I learned the proper way of brainstorming. The Five Tips for a Brilliantly Creative Brainstorming Session gave me ideas and ways to communicate with out placing blame. I have always placed blame, and now I know why it never worked.”

Donald Moore
Boyne City, MI

“This section gave advise on how to communicate my feelings differently.”

“The section regarding a healthy sexual relationship showed me that the pattern my spouse and I are on is average compared to others who’ve experienced this issue. This section gave advise on how to communicate my feelings differently. I used to think it was wrong to take a break during an argument, but now I see that sometimes it is really needed to calm down and analyze my thoughts and feelings on the matter.”

J. Lester
Atlanta, GA

“There were lots of things that I will do differently now.”

“This whole chapter helped me. It has shown me that we have been doing some of these things, and lets me kind of know where we are. It also shows me more of what we (or I) should say and do. There were lots of things that I will do differently now. Mostly how I act when we talk, using my body language to show him that I am really listening. I really enjoyed this chapter!”

Donna Neufeld
Steinbach
MB Canada

“The section can help you to control your anger.”

“This chapter talks about boundary discussions. I learned to always tell the truth. Most people seem to not believe the truth when the truth is being told. But my reaction will be different. This section shows how to accept that which you cannot change, plus offers a great definition for acceptance. The section can help you to control your anger.”

Desmond Hammond
Shepperton
England, UK

“(You) helped me more closely examine my motivations for my behavior towards my spouse.”

“The distinction between acceptance and forgiveness was very helpful. I also loved the advice to not prematurely accept things for the wrong reasons. The Three False Forms of Acceptance: Demons that can Hold You Back on Your Road to Healing helped me more closely examine my motivations for my behavior towards my spouse.”

Paul Reitz
Colleyville, TX

“It is easy to read, understand and follow the logic.”

“I like your format: Introduction, stating the issue and the facts/applications, examples, summary and nut shell review. It is like my law class presentations of IRAC (issue, rule, applications and conclusions). It is easy to read, understand and follow the logic. The section covering the Difference between Acceptance and Forgiveness is my favorite. It explains that I am normal for not being able to forget what happen and the behavior, but it is OK to go forward and accept that neither of us can change the past. I learned that it is good to learn from the experience to avoid similar situations. It is OK to disagree.”

Dianna L Hanson
Plano, TX

“I learned that the only change is on me.”

“The part that benefited me most was the acceptance section. I know that there will be times he can accept it and there will be times where he can’t accept it well. I just need to understand that and accept the outcome, hoping for the best. I learned that the only change is on me. I have to accept his feelings and know he may never forgive me for what I have done. The Opening the Heart Once More section gives me hope to not give up, accept what I’ve done and use it to make things better.”

Melissa Nieblas
Corona, CA

“I have seen a great change from the help in your previous chapters.”

“I loved the section about knowing yourself and knowing when it’s okay to accept the past, while, at the same time, you don’t have to forgive it. Each person is his own and it takes time along with effort for both parts. You also can’t be rushed into false acceptance because it takes more time to accept it and move on slowly, knowing it’s my own time to do this. I’m more relieved to know I have the right to take my time in accepting, and moving into forgiving. I have seen a great change from the help in your previous chapters, knowing it’s okay to accept it without having to forgive immediately or even forget.”

Ginger L.
Euclid, OH

“I will now stop focusing on forgiveness and work on acceptance.”

“I love the idea that I don’t have to forgive or forget to move on. I wondered how I could move on without forgiving, and if I could love again without forgiving her for what she did. I will now stop focusing on forgiveness and work on acceptance.”

Michael Moore
Victoria, Australia

“Our therapist confirms that my emotions are normal, but doesn’t really give advice on how to work through them.”

“(I liked) All the tips on how to work through the emotions. Our therapist confirms that my emotions are normal, but doesn’t really give advice on how to work through them.”

Mary Zimmerman
Toledo, OH

“We really appreciate the exercises you gave us.”

“We really appreciated the exercises you gave us. Learning about the emotions my husband is feeling has helped me and helped him feel normal. We are learning how to talk and be completely honest with each other.”

Holly Davis
Memphis, TN